How does regret hinder moving ahead in life? - Dr. Subhash Chandra
One creates dreams, make targets and accordingly takes decisions in life. However, sometimes things do not go the way one plans - decisions backfire, the choices make others upset, an unexpected event transpires or procrastination gets the better of one's priorities. Whatever may be the reason, a sense of regret sets in.
Is regret only limited to past ? How to overcome the regret others feel for one's actions? And more importantly, how to overcome regret?
Chairman of Essel Group & ZEE, Dr. Subhash Chandra addressed a group of 600 students of a renowned management institute in the 'Dr. Subhash Chandra Show' who wanted to know if regret hinders a person from moving ahead in life.
Dr. Chandra addressed the students and shared the common themes that emerged from his research as follows:
- "We are hanging on to a rut and we lose our perspective when we are hanging on our bad job, bad relationships and bad habits.
- We fail to appreciate how little time we have on this earth and we take people and various things for granted.
- We live without authenticity, sticking to the status quo and losing sight of our dreams.
- We stop evolving and become trapped in our fear of failure and rejection. We become self-observed and judgemental, growing insensitive to others."
To combat regret, Dr. Chandra advised against worrying about the past or the future and instead suggested to live in the present. "What is done is done and cannot be changed." he said "The moment we accept over our regrets and move on, we evolve as a human being."
Also, when one finds oneself focusing on regrets, it's imperative to shape thoughts by exploring the silver lining in whatever was done. That may not change anything about the situation, but it makes it easier to live with the situation and move on.
And when it comes to regrets that other's feel for our actions, Dr. Chandra advised to keep focussed on completing the tasks at hand, be optimistic to gradually overcome the regret.
An as inspiring example, Dr. Chandra especially showcased the life of 65 year old farmer from Jalna, Maharashtra - Tejrao Kannan - a simple man who moved on and ahead in his life, without any regrets, even after he lost both his arms in a near fatal accident. For the past 31 years, supported by his family, he continues to earn a living by farming his five acre field. Tejrao Kannan, along with 7 other unsung heroes, were honoured with the Ananya Sanman Annual award by Zee Media Group's leading Marathi channel - ZEE 24 Taas - as an encouragement for their valuable work for various causes without any expectation.
Dr. Subhash Chandra concluded his address with his three gurumantras: "Always keep moving ahead in life. If it doesn’t challenge you - it doesn't change you and Look at what you have and not what you don't have." for avoiding treading down the path of regret.